June 10th, 2009
Avoid Repeating Workplaces with Bullies
We have two ways to avoid stumbling into one bullying workplace after another.
First, screen the next potential employer during the interview process.
• Ask why the job is open and how long the predecessor was there. If asked why you ask, answer "just curious." (Turnover is the key indicator that bullying happens there.)
• Ask what is the hiring manager's attitude toward "workaholics." (If they say it is expected, lots of unpaid overtime, abandonment of family, etc. know what you are getting into.)
• Ask what policies or codes exist to ensure a "Respectful Workplace." If they answer with that naturally they have and enforce anti-harassment rules. Push farther for the presence of a code that makes unacceptable abusive, cruel, destructive conduct regardless of illegality. If they answer that they rely on "common sense," that "no one like that" works here, state that the best places to work recognize that out-of-control people are destructive and have clear guidelines and punish offenders. More important to you than the absence of a policy is the response they give to the question. You decide how risky it is to work in a place that denies it happens. During the interview, you may actually have to say that you left an employer because they refused to protect workers from unsafe people. It is imperative that you take the next job with your eyes wide open. No more surprises. No deer-in-the-headlights paralysis for you.
Second, restore your health before looking for a job. Try to establish new personal boundaries that strangers will not cross, making slight changes as described in the book The Bully At Work. Limit your openness and desire to disclose so much of yourself when others reveal nothing personal about themselves. Make them give first, then reciprocate slightly. Depending on the severity of the harm suffered and the nature of your departure (in your control or involuntarily disgraced), rebound time can be long.
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