http://www.workplacebullying.org/2009/06/10/repeating/ Work Shouldn't Hurt! Wed, 08 Feb 2012 17:10:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://www.workplacebullying.org/2009/06/10/repeating/#comment-262 Rand Sun, 21 Jun 2009 21:40:59 +0000 http://www.workplacebullying.org/?p=924#comment-262 When I first started working with our new hire, I didn't recognize the signs right away. I was required to orient him and get him started being productive. In a very short time, he started making little insults. I figured this was normal simply because people are different. Some people require you to work harder to get along. Then his insults became blatant and out of control. One time he yelled the same statement over 10 times to me at a customers office. In fact, in hindsight he was not technically accurate, but it was so aggressive and foward, my only response was hey knock it off. From that moment on my anger was peaked. I thought, how dare someone yell at me like that the same phrase ten times in a row. Where I grew up that would invite a fist to the mouth. Sort of a way of saying, I will shut up that pie hole. Well, I didnt and continued to let him insult me day after day. I never realized because I thought it was me. I was trying to cooperate with him and adjust my behavior. Finally, I stewed over it so much one night I was fit to be tied. I wrote my boss a long letter explaining all the details. I made the mistake of including the emotional impact it had made on me. It did stop him temporarily and lessened the frequency. However, I found out later that during his meeting with the boss he managed to introduce the thought, you have to consider the source. In other words, he implies I was unstable person and he was innocent. When I first started working with our new hire, I didn’t recognize the signs right away. I was required to orient him and get him started being productive. In a very short time, he started making little insults. I figured this was normal simply because people are different. Some people require you to work harder to get along. Then his insults became blatant and out of control. One time he yelled the same statement over 10 times to me at a customers office. In fact, in hindsight he was not technically accurate, but it was so aggressive and foward, my only response was hey knock it off. From that moment on my anger was peaked. I thought, how dare someone yell at me like that the same phrase ten times in a row. Where I grew up that would invite a fist to the mouth. Sort of a way of saying, I will shut up that pie hole. Well, I didnt and continued to let him insult me day after day. I never realized because I thought it was me. I was trying to cooperate with him and adjust my behavior. Finally, I stewed over it so much one night I was fit to be tied. I wrote my boss a long letter explaining all the details. I made the mistake of including the emotional impact it had made on me. It did stop him temporarily and lessened the frequency. However, I found out later that during his meeting with the boss he managed to introduce the thought, you have to consider the source. In other words, he implies I was unstable person and he was innocent.

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