Comments on: Bullying At Work Made Her Sick but Legal Remedies Are Few

By: Allen

Allen — Tue, 22 Feb 2011 18:04:07 +0000

Bullies suffer from low self-esteem and in reality are only a shell of person. They care about one person in the world; themselves.

Interestingly, when the term bully comes up in interviews or conversation, people freeze and shut down; the proverbial denial stage just like with addictions. Victims are afraid to confront the bully. I suspect violence on T.V. and the media contribute to the fear. Sometimes you have to call it what it is but many are not ready to see ‘bad behavior’ for what it truly is… bullying. When dealing with the victims of bullies, don’t use the term bully. UInitially, you may want to use something softer like “strong personality” or aggressive behavior when trying to get someone to open up. If people are not willing to bring it out in to the open, it’s that much more difficult to address; just like drug addiction or alcoholism.
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By: Karmeen

Karmeen — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 15:50:25 +0000

I read your articles on bulling at work an it was great,I’m not a worker, a patient and the person at the place has done this to me and made me feel out of place there after going to it for almost 20yrs, they are dangerous, because they put me back into being more depressed then I was an I didn’t trust my dotor, even getting the perscription that I needed I didn’t call for and not doing that made me really sick. They knew it after I went to hospital.

By: Dana

Dana — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 22:30:05 +0000

I found that HR is totally worthless and only there to protect the company. Going to HR seems to leave you with a label as the problem maker. I do not see them removing the bullies; they perceive the targets as the ones that need to go.

By: Clemento

Clemento — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 01:09:36 +0000

I really like your blog and i respect your work. I’ll be a frequent visitor.

By: Jay Jacobus

Jay Jacobus — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 19:47:41 +0000

Bullies come in two types. The first type is a person with a personality disorder. The second type is a person with a strategy for controlling people.

In management, a key method to improve control is through observation, analysis and modification. This usually applies to processes and systems but it sometimes applies to people as in Behavior Modification.

The bully who is an amateur psychologist can use the techniques of behavior modification to destroy every last smidgen of initiative in his targets.

This misuse of psychological discipline is very, very dangerous to the target.

The tactical bully apparently doesn’t care.

By: Don

Don — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 17:21:55 +0000

http://www.workplacebullying.org was the first source I have ever found to finally admit that not only are workers intimidated into not discussing or confronting bullies, but the HR plays a crucial role in reinforcing the behavior.