June 3rd, 2013
Workplace Bullying Targets to Employers: I Won’t Beg
[The unspoken, unwritten message employers need to hear.]
I love my job. I apply my education and experience to the task that keeps me stimulated and for which I can still get excited.
When I took this job I didn’t agree to be abused in exchange for a paycheck. I didn’t ask if you had abusers on the payroll and if you were sending me to work with them. I assumed the goodness in everyone as a starting point. I know now I should not have.
It was you who assigned me to a work group managed by a person you chose. I assumed you had managers trained in the interpersonal art of managing people. Evidently you think that is too expensive and rely instead on on-the-job training. All of us pay for that shortsighted decision.
It was I who came to the job with the reasonable expectation that if I performed well, I’d be recognized for it, not demeaned and hunted like prey by malicious predators. This has never happened before in my work life, never in any other workplace.
I’ve never underperformed. In fact, I do some of the best work in the unit. Why are those who torment me so threatened by me by comparison? I’ve always been willing to help them in any way I could. It is they who iced me out. They made me feel like a pariah.
You have the responsibility for my safety — physical and psychological. You can’t know everything that goes on in the trenches, but when I tell you what is happening, you should believe me. I’m a valuable source of information. You may not want to hear bad news, but it is important that you know.
I suffered in silence too long. I’m not a whiner. It took me a long time before I figured out that there is nothing wrong with me and that I didn’t cause my misery because of something I did or who I am. I admit to having doubts at first, but now I know that I did not invite or deserve what has happened to me. No one should have to go through what I have.
I thought long and hard about telling you before I actually did. I tried to reason with those who hurt me, but nothing ever changed. I had no alternative but to report it. I need help from those in authority with power to make the bullying stop.
When I tell you about dangers I face, you should not mock or discount me. You should address those dangers and stop the people who cause the trouble.
Why am I retaliated against for telling the truth? Why is management believed even though they lie?
You put me back on probation, after nearly two decades of working for you. Suddenly I’m a lousy worker? Did I lose my brain? Am I not the same skilled person who helped everyone for all those years as the go-to person? How insulting!
Now my economic security is threatened. I’m the sole breadwinner in my family. If I lose this job, I’ll have no health insurance for me and my children and will eventually lose my house if I don’t land another job quickly. How could this downward spiral of my life be so easy for you to accomplish? Why?
Besides the realities of losing my job, what bothers me most is the grave injustice of it all. I did nothing wrong. Why punish me? This is crazy. I am not the deficient one.
I never took anti-depressants before, but I can’t sleep. I worry constantly. I’m not myself. My kids wonder what happened to me. I’ve lost patience with them and my partner. Friends are tired of hearing me complain, but I don’t who else to tell. I need to be believed.
I was whole. Now I feel like a shell of the person I once was. I hate these changes. Work shouldn’t hurt like this.
I shouldn’t have to earn the respect that I enjoyed before the new people came into my work life.
I took for granted the dignity I enjoyed. Now that it’s been stolen from me, I don’t know how to get it back. Everyone has the right to dignity as a given, a fundamental right that goes with being a human being.
I won’t beg!
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