Posts Tagged ‘bully’
Monday, November 11th, 2013
The Fox Sports network allowed the named Miami Dolphins bully, Richie Incognito, to rehabilitate his image by telling his side of the story while on suspension from the team. It’s a classic example of BullySpeak, a language disembodied from reality and personal responsibility (though he does admit evidence that has been too public to deny). In the video below, catch these highlights:
3:15 mark — “maybe I need to change” (contrition)
4:00 mark — “people want to drag me back in” (to being the troublemaker he is documented to be)
4:22 mark — “if I had known” (I hurt target Jonathan Martin but didn’t know)
5:20 mark — “I’m embarassed by my vulgar text” message (that was shown to the world)
7:35 mark — “it was not an issue of bullying” (because I say it is not)
7:55 mark — “my actions were coming from a ‘place of love’” (really? he said this)
9:11 mark — “knucklehead stuff” (is all I have ever been guilty of for which I was kicked off both college and professional football teams — that’s all, just a guy havin’ fun)
10:15 mark — “I’d hug him (Martin)” “why didn’t you come to me?” (just more lovin’) Here’s the complete quote:
I think, honestly, I think I’d give him a big hug right now because we’ve been through so much and I’d just be like, ‘Dude, what’s going on? Why didn’t you come to me?’ If he were to say, ‘Listen, you took it way too far. You hurt me.’ … You know, I would just apologize and explain to him exactly what I explained to you, and I’d apologize to his family. They took it as malicious. I never meant it that way.
You see, all bullies are misunderstood, mischaracterized and misrepresented.
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Monday, November 4th, 2013
It is fact that bullied targets suffer in silence for too long. When shrouded in silence and secrecy, bullying thrives. Targets lose their jobs; bullies continue with impunity.
An interesting and hopeful exception is brewing. The NFL and Miami Dolphins are investigating the charges of an abusive work environment in the locker room by 2nd year player Jonathan Martin (picture on the right). He has accused veteran teammate Richie Incognito of intimidation and bullying. Thanks to Martin and the Dolphins for using the term “bullying.”
Martin voluntarily left the team on Oct. 28. The team put him on paid leave. A decision about his status is due by 4 pm Tuesday Nov. 5. His pay could be suspended at that time. If Martin were to lose money, he makes approximately $68,000 per game during the regular season.
The team learned of exchanges and racial blasts from Incognito directed at Martin since the departure. The team then suspended Incognito. His rants have gone viral.
The story might well have ended with teammates backing Incognito (pictured on the left) and denigrating Martin for being weak. And the Dolphins were leaning toward that conclusion over the weekend but changed when evidence became available and in their possession.
Here’s the transcript of a classy Incognito voice message he left for Martin in April 2013, a year after Martin was drafted, according to sources Multiple sources confirmed by ESPN:
“Hey, wassup, you half n—– piece of s—. I saw you on Twitter, you been training 10 weeks. [I want to] s— in your f—ing mouth. [I'm going to] slap your f—ing mouth. [I'm going to] slap your real mother across the face [laughter]. F— you, you’re still a rookie. I’ll kill you.”
And true to form, Incognito has demonstrated a pattern of super-aggression above and beyond what is demanded by professional football. Workplace bullies are chronic abusers, not single shot offenders.
Bullies in non-sports workplaces are rarely held accountable (only 11% face negative consequences for their actions). Let’s watch this case to see if finally justice is served.
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Friday, September 20th, 2013
Rep. Bill Johnson (R-OH) persecutes testifier at Congressional hearing.
Note the civics lesson — vote, then shut up.
Friday, January 18th, 2013
In an interview with Oprah on her show The Next Chapter, spread over two nights — Jan. 17 & 18 — disgraced cyclist Lance Armstrong admitted publicly that he used drugs to climb to the top of the racing world. Remarkably, he professed that he had become a “bully.” His words, not ours.
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Monday, October 8th, 2012
Let me be clear. There are not “2 sides” to this story. Bullying is not conflict of an intellectual nature between two people with equivalent power.
Bullying is an uninvited, unwanted assault that is initiated unilaterally. Sometimes by committee as when there are several perpetrators. But it is never started at the invitation of the targeted person.
It’s assault, a non-physical series of repeated attacks. It stops short of battery, physical contact. But it is a form of workplace violence. The cruelest bullies are innovative. They are harmful but rarely are held accountable. Instead, targets are blamed for their fate and held responsible. Strange?
Wednesday, August 22nd, 2012
I’m asked constantly to distinguish a tough boss from a bully boss. First, not all bullies are bosses, but bosses do comprise the majority of bullies (72% according to the WBI US National Survey). Second, let’s define “boss” as a person who has the authority to assign work and who delivers or withholds acknowledgment and credit for work done. Bosses can be leads, supervisors, managers, directors or executives.
There are 3 major ways tough bosses differ from bullies.
Thursday, May 24th, 2012
Bully: The Sequel
By Cindy Waitt and Dr. Alan Heisterkamp, Huffington Post, May 15, 2012
Cindy Waitt is the Executive Director of the Waitt Institute for Violence Prevention and Executive Producer of the documentary “Bully”. She co sponsored the first U.S. Workplace Bullying Survey by the Workplace Bullying Institute in 2007, and, with her brother, Ted, has been a lead supporter of Futures without Violence’s campaign “Coaching Boys into Men” and Jackson Katz’s “Mentors in Violence Prevention” for the past decade. She is Executive Producer, with Gloria Steinem and Kit Gruelle, of the upcoming documentary “Private Violence: the anti battering movement in America”.
Both Cindy and Alan are WBI colleagues. WIVP made it possible for the Sioux City Schools to become the first district in the U.S. to adopt our workplace bullying prevention and correction program.
Read their essay below.
Wednesday, May 23rd, 2012
Remember bullying was once excused as a “rite of passage” for children. No longer. Gary Trudeau is brilliant with “Bullies are people, too, my friend” and (Hate crimes) are “part of growing up, my friend” lines. See for yourself.
Monday, May 7th, 2012
Taking up the full front page of the Sunday April 22 edition of the Sioux City (Iowa) Journal newspaper was an editorial written by the Journal editorial board screaming the headline:
WE MUST STOP BULLYING. IT STARTS HERE. IT STARTS NOW.
Here is the text of the editorial
Tuesday, April 10th, 2012
The filmmakers behind “Bully” — the lauded documentary about the national bullying epidemic — stood up to the system and won.
The Weinstein Co. said Thursday that after cutting a few F-bombs from the piece, they got its R rating reduced to a PG-13.
The Motion Picture Association of America’s ruling means the flick’s target audience can now get in without dragging mom and dad to it. The original R-rating met anyone under 17 couldn’t get in solo.
The one crucial scene on a bus where a 12-year-old is tormented is left in, F-bombs and all. A few curses in other scenes were cut.
“This was the scene that carried all of the emotional weight of the movie, the language was so representative of the experience of bullying and I would not budge,” director Lee Hirsch told the Daily News.
Despite the appearance of a compromise, the MPAA did not actually relent in its arbitrary decision – Lee Hirsch still had to alter the contents of his documentary. Ultimately, the ratings change will mean that students can now see the film on school campuses, which is where it is most needed.
But in many ways this incident paints the MPAA in a bad light. The Chicago Tribune’s Michael Phillips asks a great question, “How can ‘Bully’s’ profanity equal ‘Saw’-type violence?” For those who are not familiar, the ‘Saw’ movie series depicts graphic scenes of violence and torture. It has lead to a string of copycat films of varying grotesquery, each trying to out-shock the next. Yet all of ‘Saw’s’ six installments (and the copycat films that followed) were given an ‘R’ rating by the MPAA.
‘Bully’ is a perfect film to contrast with the ‘Saw’ series. The violence which Alex Libby faces every day is real, not an act, and the dialogue isn’t scripted. The swearing actually means something because it’s not fiction. But worst of all: the subjects are children.
The MPAA has said, effectively, that depictions of real violence and bad language by children is worse for American audiences to see than are fake scenes of violent, torturous murders involving young men and women. Shouldn’t they at least be judged equally? This is a problem that has everything to do with an arbitrary ratings system – where only a small minority of powerful individuals – get to define morality for everyone else. The end result is truly warped by their narrow, ideologically driven, personal points of view. But maybe now, especially after ‘Bully,’ people are finally beginning to take notice and ask questions.
Do you believe that the controversy over ‘Bully’ will change the way films are rated in America?