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Wednesday, July 23rd, 2014
I began a job a few months ago as a bookkeeper for a medium size company. There are 8 bookkeepers in the company. There is one bookkeeper that is terrorizing everyone and the owner of the company is doing nothing about it. She screams, swears, throws things and decides what part of her job she is going to do. The best I can figure is the owner is afraid of her because he hasn’t fired her. Instead he takes her work and makes other people do it. If you approach her on a bad day to give her work that belongs to her, she will throw it at you and tell you she isn’t doing it. Then she will sit there sing real loud or start laughing like something you would see in a horror film. She is doing it on purpose. She has told me the owner isn’t going to fire her so she will do whatever she wants. I have seen her make another employee cry and I know people have quit because they can’t deal with her.
My concern is a safety issue, what if one day she really does flip out? what if someone gets serious hurt. Who is going to be held responsible? I don’t have patience for bullies and I can’t believe in the year 2014, we do not have laws to protect us from such treatment. I really hope pressure can be put on our elective officials to get things moving.
I really enjoy the work I do but I refuse to allow someone to treat me like garbage or throw things at me. Not sure what will happen when she thinks she can treat me like she does everyone else.
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Thursday, July 3rd, 2014
My story started when a new manager came to run the store. I had been working at the store for 12 years. I am a good team leader popular with everybody, ie., staff and customers. I am helpful and willing to share my knowledge. I am diligent and industrious and willing to stand up against injustice.
The new manager began nit picking, criticism of trivial nature all the time asking me to show others my duties then took all my achievement.
I went sick and blamed myself. I was so depressed. I picked myself up and asked for a meeting. Went to the meeting, a new area manager told me straight away I was not up to job.
With all of the prolonged negative stress, I had very bad stress and a breakdown. Sorry out of space.
Friday, June 13th, 2014
I am still in a bullying workplace. The person who is bullying is my supervisor. It started immediately after I started. The supervisor is related to the boss and that is why she gets away with it. She does it it front of other coworkers never the boss.
Some examples of bullying; she once said to me “where are you wearing that short ass skirt to?”.
She once said to me in front of two people, “why aren’t you taking notes, don’t come to these meeting without a pad”.
She once said to me, ” I would hope you are not acting like a den bat.”
Just recently she got upset because she has a visitor and because I notified her and she said to me ” I am tired of this from you” and slammed the phone in my ear.
These are just some of the examples. They go on and on.
Please help, what are my rights, can I sue? Do I need to start documenting?
Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
I was a victim of bullying in more than one of my jobs. Always being scheduled the same times with my bully. The boss bully made sure of it in both cases. Does it wear you down? Yes. My co-workers would say one thing to my face and then quite another to my boss. I would try to deal with it by sometimes becoming quiet during my shifts, while trying not to cry. My work schedules were very demanding and arduous. By the time I was near the end of my last job, I was completely overwhelmed.
Physically,spiritually and emotionally, I was a wreck. Crying at the drop of a hat and no one was supporting me. I knew that if I took management on, it would turn uglier for me. I found out much later, if I had gone to the labour board, it would have to be in a certain time period. I knew the boss had kept a special file for me and had plenty of facts to make, him/her alone, look good. I am a year and a bit until my retirement. I would love to have a new employ, but will absolutely not allow myself to be bullied again. I’ll walk away first. Self preservation.
If you have some assistance in getting help in your situation, do it and make sure you have positive support. I just didn’t know where to turn. There’s nothing good in feeling like you are trapped in a circumstance which is not healthy.
I pray and wish the best for all of you. Persist and press on and remember, you are not alone.
Saturday, April 19th, 2014
My story began 3 years ago when we got a new assistant principal. The first incident that happened involved myself and my aide at the time. I was told by the principal I was moving grade levels but not to discuss it with anyone. So I honored the principal’s request. The assistant principal (AP) told her/his spouse about the change and the spouse told my aide who was shocked that nothing was said to him/her. My AP called me into the office and yelled at me for telling people. I pointed out that I did not and directed the AP to her/his spouse. The spouse admitted leaking the “secret”. Although small it really bothered me that AP heard gossip and based on that attacked me. The next events centered around MAP testing. He/She did not want us to use scrap paper. We fought and pleaded. We contacted our assessment coordinator who finally allowed us to use scrap paper. The same year my 2nd grade team scored extremely well on the paper test with the majority in the distinguished range. We were told that next year we would be given a harder test. So we teach 2nd grade but now we are given the immediate map test. Of course scores significantly dropped and we were told we were the issue.
Our AP attacked us in a PLC meeting by yelling, throwing paper, and threatening us. We have went to our principal and superintendent several times and each time they state they are working on a solution. Our AP spreads mean gossip about myself and my team. The AP also has the resource teacher spying on us to create false accusations. They both turned us in to OEA Office of Educational Accountability) for cheating on a test with our building principal being the proctor. The case was unfounded because it was a total lie. The AP held our faculty Christmas party at her/his house and we were not invited. We were told not to have any contact with him/her so we go through our building principal who is just trying to sneak on out and retire in less than a year.(more…)
Friday, March 21st, 2014
I was in health care, The interview went great, but the question I was asked which threw me for a loop was “How do you handle aggressive coworkers?” I had never been asked that before and so I answered as such. I did notice when I shook hands at the end one interviewer has a confident shake and the other had a limp shake as though she was very passive, I didn’t think much of this, just thought it was weird. And my gut turned it was saying “I don’t really want to work here something is off” I got a call and was hired, and since I had not heard back from another place I had wanted I accepted – though if I had waited I would have received the phone call of acceptance 2 days after starting at this place.
Turns out the people who interviewed me were not going to be my boss. Another weird thing I had never encountered before was my new boss asked me to remove my degree from my wall frame and bring it in so he could verify that I had indeed graduated from an approved college. I said of course I had, that is why I have a license to practice. He said he is in charge and that is what policy states. So I asked my parents to FedEx my diploma from another province and dismantled my diploma and brought it in. It was returned to me with a coffee ring on it. I thought that was rude and said so. He smiled at me and said in a mocking tone “I don’t really care.”
Later on there was a discussion where medical professionals were bashing aboriginals and I spoke up after my boss said “Thank god we don’t hire them.” I found this extremely judgmental and I spoke up and said “Wow, I must have slipped by your radar” and I looked at the other medical professional and said “I am one.” My boss shrank a little bit. That is when it all went down hill. He would stand over me and try and intimidate me with his body language. He assigned me to clean the chairs (I’m a medical professional…), he assigned me to order gifts for a pharmacy rep he liked, he assigned me to janitorial duties. I kept jumping through his hoops. One day in the hallway he sneered at me “You think you are so good, well just remember this, I can have you replaced like this *snaps fingers in a gun finger pointed fashion at me*” I said I understand that, I tried to be humorous with him and I said “You remind me of the boss of office space”. There was a scholarship for a program I was in and another worker and he leaned in near me and said the coworkers name and he kept glancing at me as though wanting me to ask him questions but I didn’t then he said “Well too bad you won’t be able to apply, because you need MY approval” I said “Don’t worry, I know how to work hard to get my education”. Later he said “You have been reported using your cell phone today on the floor.” I said “How is that possible? I leave my cell in the car, go look right now.” He didn’t like that I caught him in a lie. Then he said “Also your documentation is a mess, I have it all here.” I said “How can it be?” He looked at me with a smile and took out a red pen and scratched through all my charting, I was shocked that someone so childish like this was my boss. He told me he couldn’t have me working anymore, and at this point I said “Listen – clearly you don’t like me, you know as well as I know that I haven’t done anything wrong, if you are looking for reasons to fire me, just tell me to quit, don’t resort to bullying.” His eyes looked like he wanted to kill me. Right there I saw the look that he wanted to kill me. After this I brought my cell and put it on record every time I was interacting with him and was able to document a lot of the abuse.
The last shift I worked, after having handed in my tools for the job as requested by my boss… I was injured, bleeding and tissue damage. He never filled out a worker injury and compensation form for me. I called HR and was told they are well aware of his abuse but unfortunately cannot do anything, I asked why, and they said they can’t explain. I came back in from break (calling a few people like a lawyer, a police officer, workplace harassment team, ceo of the organization, HR, past employer, a health professions licensing board) and coming up with solutions as I knew I didn’t think I could handle anymore verbal or psychological abuse as well as preventable injuries on the job without saying good bye to my sanity) and decided to give notice of resignation upon further verbal abuse, which I recorded… and was witnessed by coworkers).
I quit when he proceeded to berate me in front of a coworker on the spot I said “I am going home sick, I’m not feeling well” he said “Oh, do you think you will feel well tomorrow?” I said “Sick enough to hand in my resignation letter at noon”, he told me I couldn’t do that, he owns me for 8 hours a day, I said “No one owns me if they can’t treat me like a human being” Then I listed the employment law act for the province that stated my rights to resign and told him to look it up, then I said next look up criminal harassment. He got the hint and told everyone to go back to work. I said thank you to my team for the privilege of working with honest human beings and said if they ever need help or a witness they know how to contact me. I was able to get written affidavits of the abuse I endured and have them ready with a retained lawyer if in the event he should ever harass me in the future. I have wrote a few for other employees. Never in my life have I experienced that level of abuse with any other human being in my life.
For a year I had nightmares and panic attacks again, all new for me and sought therapy. My allies (co-workers), they too were on the receiving end of some serious petty “one-against-the-other” mind messing but we made a pact and realized he was trying to keep everyone confused and fearful in order to have quick obedience. I think the scarier thing was they had an organization in to address the workplace bullying within the first month I was there, and yet nothing changed, further these were people who people went to get therapy from. The boss hoodwinked the bullying organization.(more…)
Friday, February 28th, 2014
My bully boss enacted a posse of others to support her gossip and lies. She ran several major grants at a public university. I was her star employee, the go-to for all the hard tasks that she felt she did not want to do (or procrastinated on doing). She relied on me to support more than $8 million in grant-funded project activities. And, she never gave me credit or praise for any of my hard work or dedication. I remained behind the scenes as her “secret weapon.” She called me on weekends, evenings—just about any time she pleased. She gossiped, slandered and complained about everyone in the organization. I listened to her endless lies and complaints—all generated from her own insecurities—for nearly 7 years. I always knew, listening to her, that it was a matter of time before I became her next target.
After nearly two years of working for her, I had my first warning sign that I was under unusual stress. I went the the emergency room at my local hospital with stroke-like symptoms; they told me it was a TIA and sent me home with aspirin. That first warning should have been my last, but it only incited the bully to heap on more responsibilities and a little bit more monetary compensation to keep me in her grasp.
At year five, a fellow employee attempted to expose her bullying and discriminatory behavior. Courageous soul; the university backed her up because she brought in millions from government grants. He left distressed, distraught and demoralized. I knew that I was next—I had complained to several co-workers and one higher-up about her bad behavior. I had started to capture the outrageous lies, the slander, the falsified data she used to support her claims that she was “doing good” for students in need.
My second TIA was more dramatic. It happened nearly two years after the first one. I ended up in the hospital emergency room again, but this time the doctor issued a warning: Get rid of the stress. After that second TIA, her madness escalated. My productivity had plummeted. I scarcely realized that I was depressed and could not focus or function much. Thoughts of suicide were daily and normal. I dreaded each new day … even the weekends, because I knew that she would probably call me to continue her gossip and lies.
When she realized that I was planning on leaving, she resorted to keeping information away from me, using our shared social network to malign me and my good work; she even paid off several of my colleagues with “new” contracts and enlisting them in spreading lies about me, anything to keep me dis-empowered.
I did finally get up the courage to leave. My doctors helped me to make the decision. Medication also helped with my depression. It’s been over a year and a half, and my health has rebounded in the most miraculous ways. My spirit has been set free from the tyrant and her posse. I only hope that I can help others to break free and claim their right to greatness and joy.
Tuesday, January 28th, 2014
From the very beginning it was made known to me that I was not liked simply because I am Cuban. I was insulted on a daily basis, yelled at and sent home if I attempted to defend myself.
The final straw came when my son’s father came to the job asking for me in order to get insurance cards and perhaps go to the hospital as our 12 year old son had gotten hurt while rough housing. Not only was I not told that he had even been there, the general manager denied that he ever said that, that he was just there to pick me up. I was told that I had a bad attitude and was promptly fired. I was a mother that was rightfully furious at how the whole situation was handled.
I had made several attempts to speak to management about the abuse, even asked for an HR department and or to speak to the owner was told he didn’t wish to be bothered. This company promotes racism and fear in the work place. At the back of house is where you will find all the minorities and in the front of the house are where you will find the pretty white waitresses.
Tuesday, December 10th, 2013
When I found this website I learned so much more about myself, and what is going on. I want to lead off with this.
In 1996, I left the military after three years as an infantryman. In that same year, I started working in state government. I have put in about 16 years of state service, and have worked for three different agencies during this time. I worked the longest for the state department of corrections (12 years). During this time, I re-enlisted into the Army National Guard and volunteered for Afghanistan.
After 10 months in theater, here are some things that happened to me in Afghanistan: I was told by the commander that all the equipment has been accounted for and that the property book was straight. Come to find that it was the opposite and learned only a few months prior to my arrival that the previous property book officer actually had to take a pad of paper and inventory all three F.O.B.’s, We had missing high-dollar equipment and even lost a vehicle. Not knowing my job very well I had to search for missing paper work and equipment with no help from anyone.
From 7:00 am to 10:00pm, I was constantly trying to locate paperwork and inventory. Once the Captain realized that I was having trouble the bullying and harassment began. He started to become very paranoid questioning everything I did because he was actually the one responsible for millions of dollars of equipment. I was just the book keeper basically. Then after a month or so as our mission continuously was changing, I started to receive verbal abuse and on several times threats of verbal abuse. Just being in a combat zone was stressful enough. I can’t list all the incidences that I remember but give an idea.(more…)
Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
We work for FedEx and we have a senior manager who has verbally humiliated us. We do not have a union, and we have poor representation by the personnel representative.
Because we are not an independent department, the manager can kick out employees from meetings. The manager talks bad about past administrations, and has said things like we are not working good enough for what we do. Our concerns are not accepted by this manager and that what we have learned in the past with other managers was wrong, and more. We have witnessed this and follow the proper steps but the problem is not solved. This person has a record of the same behavior with other shifts and management only fixed by removing and sending the manager to work in another area. We have documentation and employee testimonies in the group......thanks for listening… We are desperate for solutions. They talk too much about how FedEx is great company to work for, but the public does not know the reality.