Posts Tagged ‘self-esteem’
Self-compassion: Something for targets of workplace bullying
Wednesday, March 2nd, 2011
Americans have a Calvinistic, self-punishing streak strangely juxtaposed with our more obvious hedonistic tendencies. Nowhere is the turning a negative lens on oneself more evident than when a bullied target resorts to self-blame to explain the inexplicable bullying directed at them. In fact, self-blame is one of the factors that distinguishes a target from a bullyproof person. The bully alone is cruel enough. Blaming ourselves magnifies the effect, as if they needed our help!
Dr. Kristin Neff at the Univ of Texas, Austin has created her own research and practice niche called Self-Compassion. It involves (1) treating ourselves with the kindness we would extend to others, (2) recognizing our shared humanity, and (3) being mindful (and not catastrophizing) about negative aspects of ourselves. Self-compassion is superior to self-esteem since it does not involve evaluation or comparison with others. We think Self-Compassion is going to be a valuable tool for healing wounds from bullying.
Tags: bullied targets, Kristin Neff, self-compassion, self-esteem, Tara Parker-Pope
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Guest audio: A Target reclaims her worth
Friday, February 5th, 2010
Often targets believe the lies told about them and lose themselves in the misery that is bullying. They cannot see a future where they will ever function again. But there are alternatives; there is a future. Listen to one target who tells how connecting with two people helped her. We think you will be inspired.
Tags: resume, self-esteem, self-worth
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