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Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
Fads, by their nature have a short shelf life. Positive psychology is currently in fashion. How can one argue about the ubiquitous power thinking positive, rather than negative thoughts. For workplace bullied individuals, self-blame and other forms of self-criticism turned inward are destructive and unhealthy. I guess I am bothered by the happy-happy, glib, surreal approach to casting bullying in a positive light.
Apologists for bullies are positivists. They ask us to learn to deal with the quirks and peculiarities of hyper-aggressive people, never holding the abusers accountable for their conduct. Personal responsibility blankets targets while bullies skate by with no changes demanded of them. Happy-happy. Since bullying is routine, it is inevitable and we must put the most positive “spin” on the dark phenomenon.
However, bullying is abuse. Forgiving abusers can come much later, after laws are passed and employers can no longer blithely ignore it. Call me a pessimist. We dwell on the dark side of the world of work and will not buy into happy-happy spin. If society does not address the final form of abuse that is not yet taboo, it is sending generations of wrongly accused targets who did nothing but agree to use their skills in exchange for a paycheck.
Adam Grant, writing in the Huffington Post, wrote about the value of pessimistic thinking, backed by research. He cites the work of Julie Norem. All of us realists, believing that some pessimism protects against psychological traumatization, should feel validated by his discovery of Norem’s work.
by Adam Grant, Huffington Post, Oct. 16, 2013
Tags: Adam Grant, defensive pessimists, Gary Namie, positive psychology, strategic optimists, workplace bullying
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