Posts Tagged ‘woman-on-woman’
Thursday, March 13th, 2014
Kelly Greenberg has been coach of the women’s basketball team at Boston University for 10 years, and at the University of Pennsylvania and Holy Cross for a total of 12 years before that. Her style has been described as “difficult,” and bullying by the Boston Globe.
This season, four scholarship players walked away from the team, tired of the emotional abuse Greenberg directed at them. Without scholarships that BU might take back, staying in school there is an expensive proposition. From the Globe article, here are some statements by the women players.
“I arrived feeling very confident and motivated. Then I felt bullied, threatened, and emotionally abused by the coach. By the time I left, she had demolished me as a person. She didn’t treat us like human beings at all” … Dana Theobald
“I discovered that when you play for Coach Greenberg, you don’t play the game you love. You play her game, an emotional game that is not about basketball.” … Melissa Gallo
And from the student who was taken to hospital when suicide was contemplated
“Basketball is a contact sport. We have all played for tough coaches. But I went to BU because I believed [Greenberg] was a great coach, and I was shocked by how it turned out. It was very scary. I was blaming everything on myself because of the way I had been treated. I knew deep inside that it wasn’t me, but I was too afraid to say it was [Greenberg] because she didn’t make me feel supported. Giving up a $60,000-a-year scholarship is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I hate that I’m not in school, but it had to be done. My spirit was broken.” … Dionna Joynes
These comments are completely consistent with the experiences of bullied targets. The bullying was not about the sport of basketball (the equivalent of work-related tasks) but about Greenberg’s volatile emotionality. Finally, illustrating the perfect fit with the phenomenon of bullying, the targets lost their jobs (the sport) they loved because they were involuntarily emotionally abused.
It seems coach Greenberg had trouble with players who were injured. She assaulted them as “selfish” after suffering a concussion or ankle injury.
When two players quit previously and the university conducted its “investigation,” Greenberg was made aware that she is difficult and that she had made regrettable mistakes.
Let’s see if BU renews Greenberg’s contract. Read the full story in the Globe.
Tags: Boston University, coach bullying, Dionna Joynes, emotional abuse, Kelly Greenberg, sports bullying, suicide, woman-on-woman, workplace bullying
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Friday, January 25th, 2013
We reprint a good article on the topic of woman-on-woman workplace bullying. You can read our own thinking about it here. The W-o-W bullying phenomenon was also captured in the WBI 2010 U.S. Workplace Bullying Survey in which women bullies (38% of all bullies) targeted other women in 80% of situations.
Every Office Has Its Bullies, Here’s How to Outwit Them
by Jude Stewart, Fast Company
All of us can be difficult to work with at times, in ways we’re usually blind to. Here’s how to deal with others (and your own flaws) to defuse difficult work situations, from the authors of “Mean Girls at Work.”
Everybody knows them, that ragtag parade of office meanies: the inveterate gossip, the underminer, the credit-stealer, the boss rolling his eyes or openly playing favorites. But discussions of workplace conflict too often focus on poor innocent me, persevering amid difficult coworkers. Less discussed is a more uncomfortable fact: All of us can be difficult to work with at times, in ways we’re usually blind to. This is particularly pernicious when you’re the boss, since you’re both too pressed for time to recognize your shortcomings and–let’s face it–even your most forthright direct reports may be reluctant to point out your flaws.
Office squabbles seem minor, but their costs to individuals and organizations can rack up. In a 2011 white paper, the Center for Resolution estimated a typical manager spends 20-40% of her time dealing with employee conflicts. Office disputes are a decisive factor in most employee departures, and 90% of cause-related terminations. Truly intractable conflicts can wind up in litigation with price tags of $50,000 to $100,000 in attorney fees.
Tags: bullying, Fast Company, Gary Namie, Jude Stewart, woman-on-woman, workplace bullying
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Sunday, September 5th, 2010
New research findings from the 2010 Workplace Bullying Institute national scientific survey regarding gender and workplace bullying.
Gender of targets: 58% are women; 42% are men
Gender of perpetrators: 62% men; 38% women
Men bullies target men in 55.5% of cases; women in 45.5%
What tends to make news (based on the 2007 WBI findings) is that women bullies target women in 79.8% of cases; men in 20.2%. In 2007, the woman-on-woman bullying prevalence was 71%. Now it is 80%. Looks like the American workplace is grower ever more toxic for women, at the hands of women.
Monday, June 28th, 2010
Another instance of woman-on-woman bullying in the UK, in a law firm (not unusual), where junior lawyer Pearl mounted a campaign against managing attorney Caroline causing Caroline health problems (also not unusual). Vivia Chen at Law.com, like so many others, seems intrigued by the woman-on-woman aspect and cites our WBI-Zogby 2007 findings.
Read the original article. Tip o’ the hat to Victoria Pynchon.
Wednesday, March 24th, 2010
By Lisa Cullen, Time magazine, March 26, 2010 issue
Monday, November 2nd, 2009
by Lori Gottlieb, Women’s Health magazine, Nov. 2009
When I was offered a job as a junior network television executive at age 26, I was beyond excited. I’d get to be creative, meet talented sitcom writers, and best of all, work for a woman I idolized. Amanda,* a TV veteran who worked on some great shows, seemed intimidating from afar—drop-dead gorgeous and extremely successful—but in our interview, she was warm and funny, listened carefully to my ideas, and complimented me on everything from my intellect to my earrings. I showed up my first day thinking, “This will be the Best. Job. Ever.”
Instead, I drove home every night in tears. Amanda stole my ideas, sabotaged my relationships with writers, and “forgot” to tell me about meetings. It was like high school all over again. How could this be happening in a respected company run by professionals? …. Finish reading the original article at the magazine’s site
Wednesday, August 12th, 2009
WAGA-TV, Fox 5, Atlanta, GA
Friday, July 17th, 2009
The report of an Army criminal investigation of management at the Arlington National Cemetery is covered by Mark Benjamin for Salon.com. The unauthorized theft and misuse of an employee’s e-mail account was just part of a larger bullying tale. The bullying followed the all-too-predictable pattern of the ethical worker trampled by tyrannical boss working through an immediate supervisor (a woman) accustomed to operating with impunity. The retaliation against the worker for standing up and daring to file a complaint was termination. A pattern the boss had followed for years.
Tags: Arlington, Gina Gray, Phyllis White, retaliation, Thurman Higgenbotham, woman-on-woman
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Thursday, July 16th, 2009
Workplace Bullying: Survival of the Meanest
by Sinead Nolan
Thursday July 16, 2009
Sunday, June 7th, 2009
Yet another story with the woman-on-woman bullying angle. However, UK Andrea Adams Trust director Lyn Wetheridge makes the more important point that the recession has increased bullying. Andrea Adams coined the phrase “workplace bullying” in Britain and led the movement until her death. The AA Trust is the forerunner to the American WBI.
How A Woman Becomes a Bully
More employees are suffering at their colleagues’ hands
By Carly Chynoweth and Tariq Tahi
The Sunday Times (London)
June 7, 2009